Every time the end of the year comes, people get excited
One of my favorite season myself is New Year. It gives you a fresh start.
But you don’t have to wait for the new year to come around before you start planning your goals. Every day is a new chance for you to work on yours.
So how do you set goals so that you’re sure to achieve them?
Here are practical tips on how to.
1. Make sure it’s yours
I know this sounds silly. But have you ever took the time and think if the goal you’re trying to reach is actually your goal?
Sometimes, people end up feeling empty after they reach their goal because they failed to realize that what they’ve accomplished isn’t what they truly want.
So before you think about creating a 5-year plan, think about goals first. Are these what you yearn to accomplish? Are these what you’re passionate about?
Set goals that are yours, not the goals of the people around you.
We all have our own definition of success. Even if two people make a goal of making six figures, they may have different reasons why they want to. And how they want to. So make sure your goals are the things you want to achieve for yourself.
Don’t work on a goal just to keep up with someone’s lifestyle. Or that because someone imposed this on you. Or, that because it’s the norm.
Know what that you want. Acknowledge that every one of has their own path to take.
Don’t be so enamored by someone’s dream that you forget your own.
2. Make your goals bite-sized
So now you know what you want to achieve.
The next step is to make it bite-sized. You have a lot on your plate as a work at home mom. So break down your goals into projects and then from projects into tasks. This way they are more manageable.
Breaking down your goals into tasks would also give you milestones. After reaching a milestone, you can reward yourself for doing a good job. This will motivate you further to work on your projects. Give yourself a reward for each milestone, celebrate!
I use the Kanban Method and 90-day planning for this. It’s a systematic way of planning that doesn’t feel overwhelming. It also offers self-accountability.
For example, for this year one of my goals is to write my novel. Writing a book is daunting. But I break down this goal into smaller chunks so that I have better chances of achieving them.
Rather than think of ‘write a book’, I can think of, brainstorm plot ideas for the first quarter. And then write the first draft in the next quarter. Or, write scene one for this week, and write scene 2 for next week.
That sounds more doable and less daunting to me than “write a book.”
3. Your goals should be big enough to scare you
Don’t worry that it’s a big scary goal. You can chunk it into smaller goals later on so that even if it’s big, you can still handle it as I mentioned above.
Your goal should inspire you. Don’t worry about other people judging you on this. It doesn’t matter if it sounds audacious.
Just because you’re a stay at home doesn’t mean you’re no longer allowed to have your own dreams. You’re allowed
Whether that’s starting a blog, writing a book, or building your own business, you can do it, mama!
So go out there and dream big.
4. Your goals should be within your values not just your passion
Your goal should challenge you to get out of your comfort zone.
But it’s important to remember what “getting out of your comfort zone” means. Because we hear this expression a lot of times and it sounds so motivating but it can also get you off track.
The road to achieving our dreams is not easy and there will always be roadblocks. But I don’t want you to go out there and do scary things just because you’re “getting out of your comfort zone”.
Getting out of your comfort zone doesn’t mean blindly jumping into the abyss. It means doing things that scare you, challenge you, while fully aware that you’re still playing within your values, not just your passions.
Yes, you do need to do scary, challenging things. But in the process, do not forget who you are. Keep your faith and values intact.
5. Do a 90-day goal setting plan
Every new year you hear a lot of planning the new year. Or maybe you already have your own five or 10-year plan. For me, these plans are called missions, not goals.
Goals for me as those you can achieve in a short period of time. And those big goals that you plan for the future are your missions.
That’s why I prefer to plan my goals for 90-days, not one year.
Why 90 days? Because 90 days is long enough to implement but short enough to adjust your strategies.
There is so much that can happen in a year. Much more in a year. I mean, you can get pregnant and give birth in a year!
One quarter can give you the jumpstart and motivation to work on your long-term goals because it allows you to get quick wins.
It also allows you to pivot if there are some things you need to adjust according to your schedule and lifestyle.
6. Forget about hustling
When you’re a mom, you’ll feel that working towards your goals can be slow. You have a family to take care of and most of the time, their needs come first before yours. But instead of feeling disappointed with yourself that you’re moving slow, embrace this stage of your life.
So forget about hustling. Instead, be more intentional.
It’s hard to hustle anyway when you’ve got mommy and work duties. So for your sanity’s sake, let go of the idea that you need to hustle your way to success.
You still need to work hard. But everything you do must be deliberate.
Be intentional about the goals you pursue and the tasks you write down on your daily to-do lists.
Be deliberate of the live events and webinars you attend to.
Be intentional of the courses you buy.
Be deliberate of the things you spend time with.
Be intentional about rest and sleep.
Over To You
I hope this post has inspired or helped you in some way about setting your goals.
Remember, you got this!